Personally I found the discussion afterwards to be a bit more interesting than the play itself. Although I enjoyed the play I thought it was a bit confusing to keep track of which character was which but also how would it be different if the play was told from a woman's perspective. However good points were made about the different kind of people who float around in this world. I think at one point or another everyone can either relate to one or more of the characters.
Generally speaking it seems as if even though the phrase, “if you see something, say something” is constantly circulating our minds, we don’t necessarily listen. I think especially as a teenager when something is bad or looks bad we convince ourselves that it is cool. Then whatever we are doing or we are watching someone else do shows strength of going against our parents, and not listening to the rules. Is this right though? If we use this strategy of assessing situations, then when someone is in danger it’ll appear to us as cool verses a problem.
Where is the line drawn between what is right and what is wrong? When it comes to domestic violence I think sometimes it is hard to differentiate. I think especially at this age when there is already a ton of experimenting going on people sometimes don’t realize the actual situation in till it is already happened. Then at this point question whether they need to get help from someone older. It seems as if from the play getting help and admitting to being in danger is a lot harder than it seems.
It was very interesting being able to talk with the freshman girls after the performance. I know that when I was a freshman my intake on a performance like this would have been very different. To be able to get their census of how they personally responded to a subject like this shows how age can give one a different reaction.
Two of the characters we focused on were Virgin Larry and the father. We talked about how the hierarchy of high school reflects the dominance and leadership of individuals. People would be more likely to listen to the captain of the basketball team then a character who had little experience in the subject and wasn’t as respected. However, the father seemed very protective of his daughter, and didn’t want her to start leading a life down the wrong road. We questioned though if it was his son in his daughters position would he react differently?
We discussed if it was harder being a male or a female growing up in our society. I picked that it would be harder for a female. I think there is a lot more pressure to have a sex appeal, and to life up to the celebrities images. Also being though, girls are much more targeted by both males our age and older males. I think this has a lot to do with men being considered more dominant and powerful. I do not agree that, that is right but in history and even now it seems as if men do take that role on.
This is going to be very generalized but I think most girls have a good sense of what’s going on around them. I think we are more observant and notice details. So even though we are more vulnerable at the same time we are well aware of this. Information gained from the play was interesting though, I guess you just have to be conscious of our surroundings since he did say most people who experience domestic violence know the person doing it.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Monday, May 24, 2010
HW 58
Part Three:
Brathawate (Sorry if I mispelled her name): "You may raise you're child a certain way but once they get to school it's another story... breast feeding is bonding... The book sucks, each child is different... This is my child, I'm gonna do it my way."
Rob: "My family is set in tradition but progressive... We have a different household, two dads... My family was afraid of the unknown... read books on parenting... I use time out."
Mom: "Combination of instinct, intuition and education... I read a couple of books... in some cases they were helpful but talking to other parents was more helpful... I think some of your characteristics are/were innate but I think those can be enhanced by your up bring."
For all three parents they all made the choice to read the books however it didn't seem like they were of much use. Like I said before though, think of it like preparing for a test, instead of studying one thing you should prepare for all aspects of the subject. Furthermore you could end up with the child who fits exactly what the book is saying. If you walked into a room with no further knowledge of what you were going to be asked to do you would feel helpless. Besides which its not like the baby is going to be an expert, you have to use the technique of guess and check in till you get the picture.
Another tie between all three parents is their maternal instincts kick in. I believe this is due to the fact that while you grow up repetition is what gets the message across. Parents take that repetition and either jumble it up or continue repeating it to raise their own. I also believe as much as we want to deny the fact that when we get older our ways of parenting will be completely opposite to the ones used on us, we will subconsciously repeat history in certain ways.
Part Four:
After Rob left our classroom, I thought to myself I want to adopt a baby when I'm old enough. The way he put it was so beautiful, with the mother practically handing her newborn into the arms of complete strangers. The fact that she hardly knew them but had so much trust for them after only a few minutes was remarkable. I would like to have my children that are my own as well but I think it would be a very interesting experience embracing another human being into my home. Regardless if the baby came from you or someone else its still your baby, and all three parents interviewed seemed proud to be able to say that. I am sure that type of feeling is one of the most rewarding you get could from parenting.
A lot of the units have had a tie in with my internship... Since I work with children that are of the ages of 2-3 I see the wide variety between them. They already all have personalities and attitudes. Watching them play is a learning experience in it self, I am practically seeing what my future could possibly hold. Not one of the children are alike, thats a aspect that as I'm sure is quite scary but at the same time quite rewarding when you get your plan to work. To be able to work with a little creature and figure out what makes them tick seems remarkable.
Brathawate (Sorry if I mispelled her name): "You may raise you're child a certain way but once they get to school it's another story... breast feeding is bonding... The book sucks, each child is different... This is my child, I'm gonna do it my way."
Rob: "My family is set in tradition but progressive... We have a different household, two dads... My family was afraid of the unknown... read books on parenting... I use time out."
Mom: "Combination of instinct, intuition and education... I read a couple of books... in some cases they were helpful but talking to other parents was more helpful... I think some of your characteristics are/were innate but I think those can be enhanced by your up bring."
For all three parents they all made the choice to read the books however it didn't seem like they were of much use. Like I said before though, think of it like preparing for a test, instead of studying one thing you should prepare for all aspects of the subject. Furthermore you could end up with the child who fits exactly what the book is saying. If you walked into a room with no further knowledge of what you were going to be asked to do you would feel helpless. Besides which its not like the baby is going to be an expert, you have to use the technique of guess and check in till you get the picture.
Another tie between all three parents is their maternal instincts kick in. I believe this is due to the fact that while you grow up repetition is what gets the message across. Parents take that repetition and either jumble it up or continue repeating it to raise their own. I also believe as much as we want to deny the fact that when we get older our ways of parenting will be completely opposite to the ones used on us, we will subconsciously repeat history in certain ways.
Part Four:
After Rob left our classroom, I thought to myself I want to adopt a baby when I'm old enough. The way he put it was so beautiful, with the mother practically handing her newborn into the arms of complete strangers. The fact that she hardly knew them but had so much trust for them after only a few minutes was remarkable. I would like to have my children that are my own as well but I think it would be a very interesting experience embracing another human being into my home. Regardless if the baby came from you or someone else its still your baby, and all three parents interviewed seemed proud to be able to say that. I am sure that type of feeling is one of the most rewarding you get could from parenting.
A lot of the units have had a tie in with my internship... Since I work with children that are of the ages of 2-3 I see the wide variety between them. They already all have personalities and attitudes. Watching them play is a learning experience in it self, I am practically seeing what my future could possibly hold. Not one of the children are alike, thats a aspect that as I'm sure is quite scary but at the same time quite rewarding when you get your plan to work. To be able to work with a little creature and figure out what makes them tick seems remarkable.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
HW 57
Like most things in life you honestly have to play it by ear. I don't think there is one set way of creating the perfect parent. Each kid is different and will react in a range of different ways. I think the best thing a parent could do in the beginning of their child's life is to find a good pre-school. At that age the brain is so much like a sponge that whatever is being processed will stick. What's kind of interesting is that after the age of 3 or 4, the child begins to spend less and less time with their parents and more and more time with their teacher(s) and other classmates. So the parents have to basically hope for the best and that the child who enters their home after 3 o'clock is stable enough to be able to handle.
Our memories from the early years of our life are practically non-existent. So is that to say our parents could treat us terribly up to a certain point and we would have no recollection of it? I think there should be a little bit of all the guiding principles incorporated into a home. If our personalities fluctuate so much and can only be momentary we have to have a grip at all the skills of both nurturing and confidence. Take this for example, if a parent shows to much humor the kid will never learn to take them seriously, and as they get older will end up walking all over them. However if the parent incorporates humor into the home but also makes it clear that sometimes obedience is necessary not only will it help the parent but probably shape the child as a more civilized person.
I wouldn't say parenting is going to come naturally but I think however we were raised will reflect our choice of action. Maybe not entirely but to at least some extent whatever is ingrained inside our minds will subconsciously bubble its way to the top. When or if I become a parent I am definitely going to read books on raising children. Its almost like when you study a bunch of material for a test, chances are a lot of what you studied might not even be on the actual test but the fact that you were prepared gives you practically a guarantee you can take on the challenge.
It seems like even at this age when a parent says walk we usually run, whatever they suggest we go against. Is this possibly the effect of a cycle that has been indented into our brains? In the online article: When Parenting Theories Backfire it discusses the simple method of teaching a child choices. You offer the blue and the red cup and they want the yellow. Whatever isn't offered or what isn't the parents choice/decision is the ideal choice for the kid. I guess it gives the kid a sense of rebellion against the superior but it also is what I think might be the main spark for argument.
Coming from someone who I believe was parented in this way (http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130300.asp), as much as it may be effective as a young baby as you get older it makes the relationship tense. The parents think these tools will last forever and the kid gets aggravated by the lack of space. When your a baby you don't know the difference but once you develop a voice... your idea of wanting to be nurtured 24 hours a day slowly decreases.
i defined someone who is emotionally mature as one who doesn't have the attitude of a 5 year old and handles any given situation maturely. I think the way you are raised does shape your emotional maturity, if you are babied your entire life and always given what you want when you want it... the day someone says no your going to have a break down. You then will appear as a big baby, and people usually do not associate babies as emotionally mature human beings. More so the opposite and then society will look down on you and laugh at you which leads to you gaining no respect from peers.
Our memories from the early years of our life are practically non-existent. So is that to say our parents could treat us terribly up to a certain point and we would have no recollection of it? I think there should be a little bit of all the guiding principles incorporated into a home. If our personalities fluctuate so much and can only be momentary we have to have a grip at all the skills of both nurturing and confidence. Take this for example, if a parent shows to much humor the kid will never learn to take them seriously, and as they get older will end up walking all over them. However if the parent incorporates humor into the home but also makes it clear that sometimes obedience is necessary not only will it help the parent but probably shape the child as a more civilized person.
I wouldn't say parenting is going to come naturally but I think however we were raised will reflect our choice of action. Maybe not entirely but to at least some extent whatever is ingrained inside our minds will subconsciously bubble its way to the top. When or if I become a parent I am definitely going to read books on raising children. Its almost like when you study a bunch of material for a test, chances are a lot of what you studied might not even be on the actual test but the fact that you were prepared gives you practically a guarantee you can take on the challenge.
It seems like even at this age when a parent says walk we usually run, whatever they suggest we go against. Is this possibly the effect of a cycle that has been indented into our brains? In the online article: When Parenting Theories Backfire it discusses the simple method of teaching a child choices. You offer the blue and the red cup and they want the yellow. Whatever isn't offered or what isn't the parents choice/decision is the ideal choice for the kid. I guess it gives the kid a sense of rebellion against the superior but it also is what I think might be the main spark for argument.
Coming from someone who I believe was parented in this way (http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130300.asp), as much as it may be effective as a young baby as you get older it makes the relationship tense. The parents think these tools will last forever and the kid gets aggravated by the lack of space. When your a baby you don't know the difference but once you develop a voice... your idea of wanting to be nurtured 24 hours a day slowly decreases.
i defined someone who is emotionally mature as one who doesn't have the attitude of a 5 year old and handles any given situation maturely. I think the way you are raised does shape your emotional maturity, if you are babied your entire life and always given what you want when you want it... the day someone says no your going to have a break down. You then will appear as a big baby, and people usually do not associate babies as emotionally mature human beings. More so the opposite and then society will look down on you and laugh at you which leads to you gaining no respect from peers.
Monday, May 17, 2010
HW 56
Questions (Part One):
1. When a stranger approaches you how do you normally react?
2. Would you consider a doctor, fireman or police officer a stranger?
3. Do you feel more connected to strangers or your friends/families?
4. Would you save a stranger in danger?
5. Do you consider homeless people strangers?
6. If at one point or another we were all strangers, why do you think most people get so shook when a stranger engages in conversation?
Part Two:
Interview # 1:
1. I usually try to help - or see if there is some question that needs to be answered.
2. Yes, if we define a stranger as someone we don't know.
3. More connected to my friends and family.
4. Yes, if it was reasonable to do so....
5. Yes, once again - as persons I do not know.
6. Because we sometimes feel that strangers might have other intentions besides having a conversation.
Interview # 2:
1. I'm worried, as I don't know why they would be approaching me.
2. No, I don't. If I don't know somebody, they are a stranger no matter what his or her profession is.
3. I feel more connected to my friends and family
4. I hope I would save a stranger in danger, but I can't guarantee I'd have the courage.
5. Yes
6. Because we are taught that it is better to be safe than sorry, and therefore better to assume that a stranger has bad intentions and that you should be wary of them.
Interview # 3:
1. It depends on the circumstances. If the person seems to be in their
right mind I am open to talking to them. I enjoy talking to
"strangers" because a lot can be learned and I like the sense of
commaderie... like when I'm waiting in a long line or something. If
the person is talking to themselves and seems disturbed I give them
lots of space. If they have a specific question that I can answer I
will but with caution and heightened awareness.
2. Yes, until I get to know them a little, which usually doesn't take that
long since they are accustomed to dealing with people and connecting
quickly.
3. To my friends and family.
4. Yes, as long I I didn't think I would die in doing so.
5. If I haven't met them, yes. But once I've met them, no.
6.Because they are afraid of the unknown. They might be afraid that they
will get hurt, something will be taken from them or that they will not
be able to give the person what they want. I think it is a good
practice to talk to "safe" strangers because then I'm not afraid. It's
like exercising a certain muscle. But, sometimes I might surprise or
"shake" a stranger by talking to them. Once they assess the situation
most people seem to feel I am an okay stranger to talk with.
Part Three:
In John Guare's screenplay 6 Degrees of Separation it shows the audience the closeness of strangers. The saying "6 Degrees of Separation" means that we are only six degrees away from every other person on this planet. However from my survey it seems like if one of those people approaches us unless they are in their right mind we stay clear and with precaution. Essentially what I think this means is that there are two types of strangers, the normal ones and the crazy ones. Even though we are connected to both we feel more comfortable with the normal ones. This seems pretty understandable but isn't it interesting that many people isolate certain family members because they don't "get along." These family members than turn into strangers and I think all the "crazy strangers" out there have most likely been isolated in some way or another, we probably don't think that way though when we are surrounded by them though...
Survey Question:
If you saw a person fall into the subway tracks would you save them?
1. When a stranger approaches you how do you normally react?
2. Would you consider a doctor, fireman or police officer a stranger?
3. Do you feel more connected to strangers or your friends/families?
4. Would you save a stranger in danger?
5. Do you consider homeless people strangers?
6. If at one point or another we were all strangers, why do you think most people get so shook when a stranger engages in conversation?
Part Two:
Interview # 1:
1. I usually try to help - or see if there is some question that needs to be answered.
2. Yes, if we define a stranger as someone we don't know.
3. More connected to my friends and family.
4. Yes, if it was reasonable to do so....
5. Yes, once again - as persons I do not know.
6. Because we sometimes feel that strangers might have other intentions besides having a conversation.
Interview # 2:
1. I'm worried, as I don't know why they would be approaching me.
2. No, I don't. If I don't know somebody, they are a stranger no matter what his or her profession is.
3. I feel more connected to my friends and family
4. I hope I would save a stranger in danger, but I can't guarantee I'd have the courage.
5. Yes
6. Because we are taught that it is better to be safe than sorry, and therefore better to assume that a stranger has bad intentions and that you should be wary of them.
Interview # 3:
1. It depends on the circumstances. If the person seems to be in their
right mind I am open to talking to them. I enjoy talking to
"strangers" because a lot can be learned and I like the sense of
commaderie... like when I'm waiting in a long line or something. If
the person is talking to themselves and seems disturbed I give them
lots of space. If they have a specific question that I can answer I
will but with caution and heightened awareness.
2. Yes, until I get to know them a little, which usually doesn't take that
long since they are accustomed to dealing with people and connecting
quickly.
3. To my friends and family.
4. Yes, as long I I didn't think I would die in doing so.
5. If I haven't met them, yes. But once I've met them, no.
6.Because they are afraid of the unknown. They might be afraid that they
will get hurt, something will be taken from them or that they will not
be able to give the person what they want. I think it is a good
practice to talk to "safe" strangers because then I'm not afraid. It's
like exercising a certain muscle. But, sometimes I might surprise or
"shake" a stranger by talking to them. Once they assess the situation
most people seem to feel I am an okay stranger to talk with.
Part Three:
In John Guare's screenplay 6 Degrees of Separation it shows the audience the closeness of strangers. The saying "6 Degrees of Separation" means that we are only six degrees away from every other person on this planet. However from my survey it seems like if one of those people approaches us unless they are in their right mind we stay clear and with precaution. Essentially what I think this means is that there are two types of strangers, the normal ones and the crazy ones. Even though we are connected to both we feel more comfortable with the normal ones. This seems pretty understandable but isn't it interesting that many people isolate certain family members because they don't "get along." These family members than turn into strangers and I think all the "crazy strangers" out there have most likely been isolated in some way or another, we probably don't think that way though when we are surrounded by them though...
Survey Question:
If you saw a person fall into the subway tracks would you save them?
Friday, May 14, 2010
HW 55
Research Question: Can strangers be depended upon in life or death situations? Are we closer to the strangers around us more than we realize?
Whenever a stranger talks to us like Andy says we become frightened. Mostly due to the fact that it is not the norm and it catches us off guard. It triggers a sense of fright and uncomfortableness. I think this is mainly due to the fact that most people live on their feet waiting for the next bad thing to happen. So we think if we put up a shield we will be ready to fight the moment it happens. However some of these stranger might help us when that shield doesn't work. When we are stuck in a fire, robbed or are health is at risk it isn't probably going to be the people we know the most. But the strangers who we have hardly any relationship to. So the way we treat the strangers one day may change the second we realize we need their help...
Abe: I can see where you are going but I think you need to make it less vague. I don't know if this question can be proven or have a direct answer. A suggestion I have is to maybe say, How many people stay friends with the ones made in high school? What is the percentage of child divorcing parent? If you have any questions, let me know and I will try to rework your question differently. Also it might be easier if you pick friends or family. I think the two subjects make it more difficult to find solid answers.
Mohammed: I really like your topic. I just don't know how much it can be answered directly. I think you should try to revise the second part and just answer that one. Maybe a idea for a new question could be: How many more suicides have happened since the world of Facebook, myspace and Twitter was created? How does this compare to 10 or 15 years ago? I was reading an article about a girl who committed suicide because of the website formspring...It might be interesting to see how the pressure of these websites is affecting the stability of especially teenagers.
1.
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/subjects/s/sept_11_2001/health_and_environmental_issues/index.html?scp=5&sq=firefighters&st=cse
On September 11th 2001 not only did strangers assist the people in danger but risked their own lives. For the ones who survived their health did not go back to normal. They increased the risk of cancers and other diseases. It's interesting that we never think about these factors when a stranger talks to us, will they be the one to save my life? If we did question this though maybe that would change the way we treat strangers. By classifying them as impostors we are atomatically assuming they are bad people. Maybe if we weren't so frightened by the abnormality of the unknown our lives would feel less incomplete. (Navarro, Mireya. "9/11 Health and Environmental Issues News - The New York Times." Times Topics. Web..)
2.
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/organizations/d/doctors_without_borders/index.html?scp=1&sq=doctors%20with%20no%20borders&st=cse
What is interesting about this organization is that the people they help either accept the strangers or tell them to leave. Since the United States isn't a third world country we are less inclined to be helped by those around us. Although I am sure in third world countries the people in need of help will take it without question. The people working with Doctors Without Borders, are there to medically assist the suffering but also observe to see why the suffering may have initially started. It seems as though the people don't mind the medical attention but when the criticising starts the strangers can pack there bags... (Gettleman, Jeffrey. "Doctors Without Borders News - The New York Times." Times Topics. Web..)
3.
http://thecaucus.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/05/15/obama-thanks-families-of-slain-police-officers/?scp=3&sq=police&st=cse
Obama shows thanks to those who risked their lives for other strangers. Something interesting to question though is, do we view our uniformed citizens as strangers? Is there a difference between someone who could suddenly turn into a life saver verses someone who does it as their job? Maybe.... but what if that person who does wear a uniform starts up a casual conversation when the uniform isn't flashing, and you look at them as if they are out of their mind. However in reality if they were nonexistent our live span would most likely be much shorter. (Stolberg, Sheryl Gay. "Obama Thanks Families of Slain Police Officers - The Caucus Blog - NYTimes.com." Politics and Government - The Caucus Blog - NYTimes.com. Web..)
4.
http://learning.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/04/27/would-you-help-an-injured-stranger/?scp=3&sq=strangers&st=cse
The talk of the homeless man who saved a woman who was being robbed has been quite a conversation recently. I think it is mainly due to the fact that homeless people are alienated from most of the population. They are looked down on as lazy and helpless. What if what happened to this man happened to you though? I wouldn't want to be left on the street drowning in my own blood. The fact of the matter is though is this man was originally just trying to help a stranger and then the strangers around him didn't have the decency to help him in return. Most of the answers from this survey were shocked by the choices that were made in this incident but if they were in the moment would they honestly look at this stranger and help him as they said they would? (Ojavlo, Holly E. "Would You Help an Injured Stranger?" New York Times (blog). 27 Apr. 2010. Web.
Whenever a stranger talks to us like Andy says we become frightened. Mostly due to the fact that it is not the norm and it catches us off guard. It triggers a sense of fright and uncomfortableness. I think this is mainly due to the fact that most people live on their feet waiting for the next bad thing to happen. So we think if we put up a shield we will be ready to fight the moment it happens. However some of these stranger might help us when that shield doesn't work. When we are stuck in a fire, robbed or are health is at risk it isn't probably going to be the people we know the most. But the strangers who we have hardly any relationship to. So the way we treat the strangers one day may change the second we realize we need their help...
Abe: I can see where you are going but I think you need to make it less vague. I don't know if this question can be proven or have a direct answer. A suggestion I have is to maybe say, How many people stay friends with the ones made in high school? What is the percentage of child divorcing parent? If you have any questions, let me know and I will try to rework your question differently. Also it might be easier if you pick friends or family. I think the two subjects make it more difficult to find solid answers.
Mohammed: I really like your topic. I just don't know how much it can be answered directly. I think you should try to revise the second part and just answer that one. Maybe a idea for a new question could be: How many more suicides have happened since the world of Facebook, myspace and Twitter was created? How does this compare to 10 or 15 years ago? I was reading an article about a girl who committed suicide because of the website formspring...It might be interesting to see how the pressure of these websites is affecting the stability of especially teenagers.
1.
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/subjects/s/sept_11_2001/health_and_environmental_issues/index.html?scp=5&sq=firefighters&st=cse
On September 11th 2001 not only did strangers assist the people in danger but risked their own lives. For the ones who survived their health did not go back to normal. They increased the risk of cancers and other diseases. It's interesting that we never think about these factors when a stranger talks to us, will they be the one to save my life? If we did question this though maybe that would change the way we treat strangers. By classifying them as impostors we are atomatically assuming they are bad people. Maybe if we weren't so frightened by the abnormality of the unknown our lives would feel less incomplete. (Navarro, Mireya. "9/11 Health and Environmental Issues News - The New York Times." Times Topics. Web.
2.
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/organizations/d/doctors_without_borders/index.html?scp=1&sq=doctors%20with%20no%20borders&st=cse
What is interesting about this organization is that the people they help either accept the strangers or tell them to leave. Since the United States isn't a third world country we are less inclined to be helped by those around us. Although I am sure in third world countries the people in need of help will take it without question. The people working with Doctors Without Borders, are there to medically assist the suffering but also observe to see why the suffering may have initially started. It seems as though the people don't mind the medical attention but when the criticising starts the strangers can pack there bags... (Gettleman, Jeffrey. "Doctors Without Borders News - The New York Times." Times Topics. Web.
3.
http://thecaucus.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/05/15/obama-thanks-families-of-slain-police-officers/?scp=3&sq=police&st=cse
Obama shows thanks to those who risked their lives for other strangers. Something interesting to question though is, do we view our uniformed citizens as strangers? Is there a difference between someone who could suddenly turn into a life saver verses someone who does it as their job? Maybe.... but what if that person who does wear a uniform starts up a casual conversation when the uniform isn't flashing, and you look at them as if they are out of their mind. However in reality if they were nonexistent our live span would most likely be much shorter. (Stolberg, Sheryl Gay. "Obama Thanks Families of Slain Police Officers - The Caucus Blog - NYTimes.com." Politics and Government - The Caucus Blog - NYTimes.com. Web.
4.
http://learning.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/04/27/would-you-help-an-injured-stranger/?scp=3&sq=strangers&st=cse
The talk of the homeless man who saved a woman who was being robbed has been quite a conversation recently. I think it is mainly due to the fact that homeless people are alienated from most of the population. They are looked down on as lazy and helpless. What if what happened to this man happened to you though? I wouldn't want to be left on the street drowning in my own blood. The fact of the matter is though is this man was originally just trying to help a stranger and then the strangers around him didn't have the decency to help him in return. Most of the answers from this survey were shocked by the choices that were made in this incident but if they were in the moment would they honestly look at this stranger and help him as they said they would? (Ojavlo, Holly E. "Would You Help an Injured Stranger?" New York Times (blog). 27 Apr. 2010. Web.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
HW 54
Part One:
Extroverted (E) 61.54% Introverted (I) 38.46%
Intuitive (N) 52.5% Sensing (S) 47.5%
Feeling (F) 57.5% Thinking (T) 42.5%
Perceiving (P) 51.52% Judging (J) 48.48%
Your type is: ENFP
ENFP - "Journalist". Uncanny sense of the motivations of others. Life is an exciting drama. 8.1% of total population.
For every part of the breakdown of what kind of person I make up, most of the percentages were about 50/50. Part of me feels as if maybe the reasoning of this, is due to the fact that our personalities change by the moment. This change depends on the people we are around or the type of situation we find ourselves in. However the higher the percentage is probably what we strive for or the one we desire more. It is as if to say our brain knows what is appropriate for that moment. So subconsciously the brain is flipping our light switches off and on, and we are oblivious to the change in the light.
However the exact percentage is quite useful. As I said before in my HW 52 our friends are the mirrors of us. They reflect all of the components we are made up of. If most of our friends have similar percentages in each portion of the survey, that would make complete sense. They are at the same level as us, and that allows us to feel more comfortable around them. Although there is a possibility that we could have friends who had opposite percentages, that might also make sense though. It is as if to say they complete us and give us the missing part of ourselves.
Part Two:
We listen to what we want to hear. We select what we want the outcome to be, most of the time. We usually don't intentionally put ourselves in situations where we know we will feel uncomfortable. The feeling of uncomfortableness is most of the time provoked by an error or a mistake in our calculations. Hence why we usually surround ourselves with more similarity than difference. I thought the surveys were accurate, yet I believe it was mainly due to the fact that we selected answers that would lead us to what we thought of ourselves. Our ideas are programed into those around us, so they will view us as certain people. Maybe that is why when strangers talk to us or we meet a stranger, we feel uncomfortable... Mainly due to the idea of them not knowing what we are made up of and we don't want them to view us as a different combination.
Extroverted (E) 61.54% Introverted (I) 38.46%
Intuitive (N) 52.5% Sensing (S) 47.5%
Feeling (F) 57.5% Thinking (T) 42.5%
Perceiving (P) 51.52% Judging (J) 48.48%
Your type is: ENFP
ENFP - "Journalist". Uncanny sense of the motivations of others. Life is an exciting drama. 8.1% of total population.
For every part of the breakdown of what kind of person I make up, most of the percentages were about 50/50. Part of me feels as if maybe the reasoning of this, is due to the fact that our personalities change by the moment. This change depends on the people we are around or the type of situation we find ourselves in. However the higher the percentage is probably what we strive for or the one we desire more. It is as if to say our brain knows what is appropriate for that moment. So subconsciously the brain is flipping our light switches off and on, and we are oblivious to the change in the light.
However the exact percentage is quite useful. As I said before in my HW 52 our friends are the mirrors of us. They reflect all of the components we are made up of. If most of our friends have similar percentages in each portion of the survey, that would make complete sense. They are at the same level as us, and that allows us to feel more comfortable around them. Although there is a possibility that we could have friends who had opposite percentages, that might also make sense though. It is as if to say they complete us and give us the missing part of ourselves.
Part Two:
We listen to what we want to hear. We select what we want the outcome to be, most of the time. We usually don't intentionally put ourselves in situations where we know we will feel uncomfortable. The feeling of uncomfortableness is most of the time provoked by an error or a mistake in our calculations. Hence why we usually surround ourselves with more similarity than difference. I thought the surveys were accurate, yet I believe it was mainly due to the fact that we selected answers that would lead us to what we thought of ourselves. Our ideas are programed into those around us, so they will view us as certain people. Maybe that is why when strangers talk to us or we meet a stranger, we feel uncomfortable... Mainly due to the idea of them not knowing what we are made up of and we don't want them to view us as a different combination.
Saturday, May 8, 2010
HW 53
Part One: I took the survey.
Part Two: I feel like when thinking generally about subjects such as the ones asked about we usually make it out to be much worse. When in reality our lives are not as bad as most. One of the questions that I thought was particularly interesting was, If you could live your life over you'd change it... It seems like all the other questions led up to this one. The sense of regret or not being satisfied with your life up to this point. People usually say not to live life with regret but to use your mistakes. I agree with that, each day is a start to change and its up to you to change your life. I can't imagine erasing every memory and every moment of my life to change it completely. I don't know if I would want that and I can't imagine why anyone else would want to either.
I understand however that there are people out there who if given the option would probably take it. A large majority of the people in this world lead very hard lives but by changing your life over, does this mean you change the family you are surrounded by as well? It seems like if you were to have a harder life than most the root of the problem may be family. Since family is the first to open your eyes to the world and guide the way for you. So maybe its not the life they would want to change but the people who brought them into this world.
Part Three: I focused again on the question about changing life over. The results from this were 40% of those who took the survey would change their lives over. Then I noticed that 60% of the people who took the survey felt happy. 40% + 60% = 100%. Meaning that those who probably don't want to change their life are happy. Or maybe happy enough to not want to erase what they have. I thought it was really sad that 32% of the people have thought about suicide. Not even just erasing and starting over but ending it completely. I wonder what makes those thoughts trigger...
Part Four: I thought some of the questions were similar to some of the ones asked on ours. Especially in terms of what we put into our body. Under the categories of Partnering - Romance - Sexuality. Also in terms of Self, politics, etc. Differences though were that under those categories there were many more questions. The Health Youth Survey pin pointed every aspect of the subject. While we just brushed upon it. However the results of the similar questions had similar results. I guess it shows that the masses agree and have the same ideas.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
HW 52
Throughout my life and even now the friends I have had or have seem to make up different traits of myself. I think it’s mainly due to the fact that we are such a culture of being self-conscious. We break ourselves down and classify each friend as a go to for ______. We have our advice friend, our funny friend, our emotional friend etc. Each friend makes up a detailed portion of us. I think the reason why this is so common especially among teenagers is because if we see what goes wrong within them we can subconsciously change it within ourselves.
Most people give at least one piece of advice a day, but has it ever occurred to us that the advice we give should be listened to by us first. People love getting attention and love compliments, it is like a way of avoiding our problems. Maybe the reason why we give so much advice is because we can tell ourselves that there is someone else out there with bigger problems than us. But we have to face the fact that we all have problems and most of the time they are unavoidable.
Personally I don’t know what motivates me to get out of bed every morning. I think I do because its routine, I’m used to it. Maybe it’s the fact that in order to not be a couch potato that does nothing with their life I have to. It goes directly back to being self-conscious. We are so scared of how others will judge us that we need to live up to certain standards or expectations of others.
A couple of weeks ago there was a homeless man who saved a woman from being robbed. He risked his life and it ended up costing him his own. He was left on the sidewalk bleeding. For about an hour people walked by and did nothing. Probably due to the fact he wasn’t wearing a suit so people had no respect for him. I think that’s what we are scared of though, no one wanting to be there for us. The feeling of loneliness and helplessness. It seems like unfortunately that if you don’t have the normal motivation that the mass does, you are looked down on and walked by as if you don’t exist.
The media takes a serious toll on what is realistic and what is not. They take average situations and add the Hollywood to them. Us normal people get confused on what is true and what isn’t. So then we begin to try to take certain aspects from the movies and incorporate them into our own lives. Once this is completed and we try using the aspects we realize they don’t work in real life. That however makes us frustrated because people believe what they read and what they see. People set such high standards and play out scenarios that have no chance of actually working out. Since most movies can relate to most people we find general aspects of our own lives within them and then convince ourselves that the movie plot is identical to our own. If we are a culture that lives like this we are doomed to fail.
Something that bugs me is when I sit and over analyze so many pointless situations. I'll look back years later and think to myself, what was I thinking? I guess its kind of weird how in the moment so many people have such big impacts on us. As time goes on though those impacts become less and less, and become vivid memories in our minds.
I don't understand why people lie so much. Do I look fat in this? Does my hair look bad? Did you talk to him? I mean I understand that sometimes it's better to not be completely honest but other times the truth is better off. Even if we do lie though the truth always comes out and back around. There is no way of avoiding the truth and it hurts even more when you hear it through the grape vine. Part of me feels like people lie so much because they are afraid to be themselves. So they have to make up for all of their imperfection and awkwardness. We protect ourselves so much from getting hurt but all good things come to an end, so why waste unnecessary time lying to ourselves?
A couple of months ago I was talking to my best friend on the bus, and this man next to us was eves dropping. He flat out said: "It's never gonna get better..." I guess we all have the same objective, find true love and spend the rest of your life with them. Maybe he said that because he didn't make mistakes when he was younger, so he was experiencing things later. Still it seems like things can be great for a while and then go so bad in an instant. All because one thing was said or one thing was done. We never know when this moment is going to happen and it's usually when you least expect it. Not just romantically speaking but with friendships as well. How can we prepare ourselves mentally for moments like these? Do we just always have to live waiting for it to happen?
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